Parents responsible for lousy relationship with boss: Study

Parents responsible for lousy relationship with boss: Study
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Story Dated : July 12, 2016

Ohio: To be fair, most bad bosses are not actually terrible people – they are good people in the wrong role. And that is why it is said if someone has a less-than-ideal relationship with his/her boss, it might have something to do with how they were raised. Thus says a research study published in the journal Human Relations which studied how childhood bearing ends up with grappling issues in career life.

The research draws on John Bowlby’s attachment theory, a pillar of psychological thinking, which says that how you are treated as a child shapes the way you react to the world as an adult. According to this theory, about 60% of people are emotionally healthy as a result of good parenting.

Of the 40% of children who grow up with unreliable parents, that is with parents who don’t respond to their kid’s needs, half develop an “anxious” attachment style. In studies, when anxious children are left alone, they “escalate crying beyond all belief, and when the parent comes back, the child just keeps going, like they’re punishing the parent,” explains Peter Harms, PhD, lead author on the study.

The rest of children with unreliable parents develop an “avoidant” attachment style, meaning they don’t react at all when the parent leaves, and they ignore them when they return.

Harms and his co-authors suspected that dynamics in the workplace mirror those of our formative years. To find out, they had supervisors and employees at eight Ohio restaurants answer questions about their attachment styles, job stress, and how much they trusted their supervisors.

The conclusions the researchers drew were based on responses from 28 supervisors and 152 employees. They found that employees who’d grown up with good parents weren’t affected too much by how their bosses behaved. Neither were those who had avoidant styles; they preferred to just do their jobs and go home. These avoidant types were also less likely to be good team players, says Harms.

Employees with the anxious attachment style, though, reported high stress if their supervisors were avoidant. In general, these are people who tend to “complain more in the workplace, or report having more drama,” says Harms who is an assistant professor in the department of management at The University of Alabama in Tuscaloosa.

When anxious people had good bosses they weren’t so stressed out. “Individuals who were anxious but who had supportive leaders could function at high levels,” says Harms.

The key ingredient was trust. “You have a situation where anxious people want to be reassured, but are nervous that the support they get is shallow or likely to end,” says Harms. “A leader who can build a foundation of trust can help them not ‘activate’ their anxieties in the first place.”

The findings may also help you be a good “follower” or employee, by changing your perception of your distant boss. “You could look at your leader and think, ‘may be this person has never had a role model to show them what it means to be a good dad or mom’, and the leader is like the dad or mom of the workplace,” says Harms.

Harms hopes the findings could contribute to more humane working conditions. “We can basically show that there really are no broken people,” says Harms. “There are fragile people but they’re not necessarily broken, and if we give them a supportive environment, they can like their job.”

After all, as he points out, the ultimate goal shouldn’t just be increased productivity, “but increased well-being.”

 

 

 

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